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Post by Rit on Jun 6, 2006 4:34:15 GMT -5
that sux, Proud. you should do something about that. seriously. you don't want to be stuck in that mindset for very long. i can't think of a worse hell on earth.
just be cool. loosen up. don't care what people think. if you can't get in a relationship now, build up your other characteristics and hobbies. someone will eventually come round to you. but if you haven't done the legwork in the meanwhile, you'll not only suffer now, you'll suffer later as well.
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Post by Rit on Jun 6, 2006 5:14:38 GMT -5
if it will make you feel better, also keep in mind that some of the other posters here are also inanely boring nutsacks, but does it bother them? no. they've accepted it as who they are, and continue to post up static snapshots of their mind almost as if they're proud of it. (  ) perhaps if you find yourself caught between two worlds, you should let go of one and embrace the other. |
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Post by dolly on Jun 6, 2006 10:03:20 GMT -5
if it will make you feel better, also keep in mind that some of the other posters here are also inanely boring nutsacks, but does it bother them? no. they've accepted it as who they are, and continue to post up static snapshots of their mind almost as if they're proud of it. ( ) Yeah, sorry bout that. |
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Post by luke on Jun 6, 2006 10:45:00 GMT -5
Aye.
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Post by Proud on Jun 7, 2006 1:16:45 GMT -5
that sux, Proud. you should do something about that. seriously. you don't want to be stuck in that mindset for very long. i can't think of a worse hell on earth. just be cool. loosen up. don't care what people think. if you can't get in a relationship now, build up your other characteristics and hobbies. someone will eventually come round to you. but if you haven't done the legwork in the meanwhile, you'll not only suffer now, you'll suffer later as well. Much thanks for the thoughts. I can't imagine not living like that... would lead to some new experiences, for sure. I've been pretty bored with life for a long time, and that mindset may be to blame. I'm much more comfortable communicating over the Internet than in person. I don't mind holding conversations, as long as I don't have to talk too much about myself... basically, it's a voice/appearance thing. |
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i'm babylon burned inside out
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Post by stingingpistol on Jun 8, 2006 22:28:46 GMT -5
stop being an enemy to urself, proud. seriously. if u don't make a determined effort to nip this in the bud, ur guna wake up one day lonely and full of regrets. i think the best thing you can do is like urself, and the rest just falls into place naturally. ppl who are completely unredeemable are few and far between. i can't think of too many ppl i couldn't find something attractive aboot if i troubled myself to look.
i'm insecure aboot asking for help. i've helped so many friends move, but when it comes my turn, i can't bring myself to ask the same of my mates. i also have trouble asking professors for help. i think i worry that they'll wonder how i got into uni, which is completely ridiculous cos my uni is top notch, and more importantly, it's part of what they're paid to do.
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Post by limitdeditionlayla on Jun 9, 2006 3:59:03 GMT -5
Proud, get over this bullshit thinking. I've never gotten sick of having conversations with you in all the years I've known you. I'm not friends with boring people, you know this. Don't be down on yourself or I'll kick your ass.
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Post by pauledwardwagemann on Jun 28, 2006 21:51:25 GMT -5
I really dont have any insecurities, except that I dont wear underwear and sometimes I think if I'm wearing shorts my ballsack might flop out and cause me to get arrested... I also probablly dont worry enough what people think about me, the way I dress, what I say, etc. |
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Post by Matheus on Jun 28, 2006 22:26:26 GMT -5
Insecurities???
--Because I don't fit into the gay stereotype (gay-acting) that I don't fit in with the gay crowd, and because I'm gay that I don't fit in with straight guys.
--That if I get too close to girls that they'll want to bed me... which has been known to happen more than I care to remember.
--That I have to label myself as gay... even though it's not a label I accept, because I feel like I'm just like everyone else.
--I feel like no one understands me.
--because i'm friendly at work, and rather talkative, even though I get my job done that people think I'm lazy.
--that I'll end up like most of my extended family... addicted and not going anywhere but flipping burgers at mcdonalds.
--that my lack of money will catch up to me and i won't be able to finish school.
--that my family will always be at a distance because I don't relate to them even though I love them.
--the madonna thing.
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Post by sisyphus on Jun 29, 2006 9:40:52 GMT -5
money. i'm insecure about money. i hardly make any. i hardly try. i'm not very career driven. yet, i'm fearful that i need to get my butt in gear. i need to find a better paying job so that i can finish my installation and work on the art projects that i want to...get a studio again......get a palpable body of work together and begin attempting to sell it..make a living doing what i love.... but i hate selling artwork... i get anxious about the whole ordeal...going to galleries and showing them my work... it's not that i don't have confidence in my work...i've gotten enough awards and scholarships through college to encourage me... it's the business end.... all so intimidating... i'm a pretty social person, but when it comes to social situations of the business variety, i get very apprehensive/anxious... i've only sold a few things, but unintentionally. a handful of people have offered to buy pieces that i had not made any effort to sell, and a few other pieces were purchased for permanent collections in a couple of galleries. more often than not, i find myself giving work away when people express interest in it. sigh.
in any case, i'm feeling like a complete loser lately. here i am with a BFA...graduated with honors...and i'm working a dead end job in a group home, making barely more than minimum wage. i can't seem to build the gumption to go out and land other jobs. i wish i had finished the damn english double major. i was only 6 credits away. that would give me the confidence to attempt entering a few more doors....baaaahhhhfoooozlejuooooouakk.
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Post by luke on Jun 29, 2006 9:55:42 GMT -5
You need...a manager.
I suppose I'm pretty insecure about my ability to land a stable career.
I used to be insecure about tons of stuff, but most of it went away when I got married. Still some stuff here and there, but it's hard to feel insecure with, well, all that security.
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Post by pauledwardwagemann on Jun 29, 2006 9:57:17 GMT -5
I think money is the worst thing to have to worry about--that's why I simply choose not to...I've never made over $20,000 a year in my life--never had a full-time job either, yet I dont starve and have the freedom to do what ever I want. Money is over rated IMO--it really is. So many people are obsessed by it, they dedicate so much of their lives to it and then they find themselves at 65 years of age wondering "where the fuck did my life go?"
Ofcourse in this society, you need a certain base amount of dough, just to make life easier. But you can achieve that working part-time at some job that doesnt really matter. Having a part-time job where you really dont give a shit about getting fired is pretty fun IMO. I really see no enjoyment in being shackled to working 40 hours plus a week, plus at least another 5 in commute, worrying how much money the other guy is making and whether or not some asswad is looking over your shoulder making sure you are doing what your supposed to, etc, etc...
As Lily Thomas once famously said, the problem with the rat race is that, even if you win, you're still a rat...
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Post by Paul on Jun 29, 2006 11:09:28 GMT -5
As Lily Thomas once famously said, the problem with the rat race is that, even if you win, you're still a rat... I've never heard this; that's an excellent saying! Simple, yet makes me think about a lot of shit.... money. i'm insecure about money. i hardly make any. i hardly try. i'm not very career driven. yet, i'm fearful that i need to get my butt in gear. here i am with a BFA...graduated with honors...and i'm working a dead end job in a group home, making barely more than minimum wage. i can't seem to build the gumption to go out and land other jobs..baaaahhhhfoooozlejuooooouakk. yet, I'm in the rat race and feel very similar to sisyphus....I want money what can I say? I want things...I want a nice house, a killer stero system, a Rottweiler...Someday (perhaps in the near future) I want a wife too...I don't want to worry about money, and I want a job where I feel like I'm helping/ or at least have a job where I can feel pride and like I'm making some sort of difference. Instead, like sisyphus, I'm in a dead end job, I live in a group home, and I'm not saving very much at all. I'm kinda lazy, and I reckon that's my biggest problem, I'm just not really a "go getter", and I'm not very career driven. Spending time w/ my girlfriend, hanging w/ my boys, and listening/talking/playing music are more important to me. I feel like if I'm gonna buy a house, marry my girl, I need to save up, get my ass in gear, etc...but I haven't yet. |
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Post by sisyphus on Jun 29, 2006 14:43:56 GMT -5
yeah. me too. i value my free time above all else.
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Post by sisyphus on Jun 29, 2006 14:44:31 GMT -5
yeah. i need some kind of agent. that would be nice.
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