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Post by samplestiltskin on Nov 9, 2006 15:58:35 GMT -5
Seriously though, I've learned to ALWAYS get their number instead if they ask for mine. That way they'll only know my number if I'm interested enough to call them.
Also found it helpful to never delete people I'm trying to avoid from my cell phone, so that if they call, their name still shows up and I know not to answer.
Number One Best Excuse if you haven't answered phonecalls/returned messages: "My phone is fucked up. It doesn't ring/messages come late/messages don't come at all/I dropped it in the toilet/It's in my cat's butt."
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Post by limitdeditionlayla on Nov 9, 2006 19:32:43 GMT -5
It took me a long time to learn how to reject someone properly. You still come away looking like a cold bitch, though.
Which is why the Number One Best Excuse for turning a man down is: "sorry, I have a boyfriend". Implies that if you were single you'd give him a go, even if the guy is a creepy toad.
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Post by Thorngrub on Nov 10, 2006 9:20:24 GMT -5
Perhaps you should just try out "Naw, you're a creepy toad" for size sometime.
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Post by samplestiltskin on Nov 10, 2006 10:23:50 GMT -5
yeah, really there's nothing wrong with coming off as a cold bitch. at least you're not leading anybody on. i really needed to develop the Bitch thing after my wave of stalkers hit, and i've decided to keep this talent brushed up because it's so damn empowering, muhaha.
and by cold hearted bitch btw, i just mean that if you freak me out, i'll say so and if i don't want to hang out anymore i'll say so, and if you hang out under my window in your taxicab i'll have no problem whatsoever with calling beefy male friends up for help.
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Post by sisyphus on Nov 10, 2006 10:34:31 GMT -5
actually the 'cold bitch' attitude can get you in trouble. don't try it if you're alone, or accompanied only by a drunk friend. i was at this bar in town called "andy's" once. it's a dive bar. my friend, "R-the-Socialist" was already wasted, and this guy had been hitting on me relentlessly for some time. finally i put on the "cold-bitch" attitude and almost got myself hurt. the guy flipped out, threatened my non-existant husband, and punched a pin ball machine. what a fucking wierdo nut. in any case, i tried to sneak out quietly without being seen, which took some time to do since his freaky eyeball was glued to me.. creepy toad.
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Post by skvorisdeadsorta on Nov 10, 2006 10:41:37 GMT -5
I am horrible when it comes to the break up/rejection thing. I am painfully honest when it comes to things like that now. I used to be a spineless goat who would sit there and chew on his tongue and get talked back into dating psychos. Now, I have the firm "I am not into you, I will never be into you, and we are just never going to work out. Later. No fringe benefits, none of this get coffee thing, we're done".
You just have to do it as much as their puppy dog eyes say don't. Just think in your mind of a million puppies being beat to death with a hammer and how happy that would make you, you can successfully break up with someone outside of email and text messaging.
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Post by sisyphus on Nov 10, 2006 10:47:28 GMT -5
haha. email/text break ups? that's fucked up.
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Post by samplestiltskin on Nov 10, 2006 11:02:43 GMT -5
don't ever do that. no closure whatsoever.
i really prefer to stay friends after break-ups, unless they are totally psycho. it's just too bad, seems like 90% of people can't draw the line between "let's have coffee" and "let's be together forever."
that dude sounds scary, sisyphus. i had a guy tell me he punched holes in his wall when he thought i might be cheating on him. after we'd been together (well, mostly what i thought was no-strings fucking) for three weeks. that's when i fled for my life, and the beginning of the end as far as ever having hope of finding a sane man again.
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Post by skvorisdeadsorta on Nov 10, 2006 11:02:44 GMT -5
I have been dumped via email and text messaging and I must say, I'd much rather be called a creepy cretin that sucks on toads to the face than over that. Even a phone call is better. I've been dumped through a letterin the mail too. That was hilarious and sad.......
People suck sometimes.
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Post by Thorngrub on Nov 10, 2006 11:10:40 GMT -5
phone call dumps suck just as much. . . perhaps even more so (as you can actually hear them over there on the other end of the line where they're nice & safe) than email/texts.
So no: a phone call is NOT better (maybe worse).
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Post by skvorisdeadsorta on Nov 10, 2006 11:15:01 GMT -5
I once had a girl break up with me over the phone and it was obvious what her new boyfriend was doing. Evil. Evil. Okay, yeah, I'll take email over the phone. Phone has always been bad. Bad. Ugh.
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Post by samplestiltskin on Nov 10, 2006 11:16:52 GMT -5
i don't think i've ever been dumped.... have i? that's weird. i've always been so skittish i guess i always ran away first. that's sad. maybe someday i'll be the dump-ee.
no, i guess my last ex sort of dumped me, mostly he said "i have no energy to focus on anything except myself" and so i said "fuck you, i'm moving out". who dumped who. who cares.
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Post by Thorngrub on Nov 10, 2006 11:22:56 GMT -5
yeah, dumping sux, anyway U slice it
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Post by sisyphus on Nov 10, 2006 11:26:50 GMT -5
i'm in your same place, samps. never been dumped. always ran first. hmm. how strange.
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Post by tuneschick on Nov 10, 2006 11:26:59 GMT -5
Whoa sis, that guy sounds really scary.  Dumping via e-mail/text/phone is just evil. Unless you're living on the other side of the world or something, just do it face to face. Sheesh. That said, I did break up with a guy over the phone once (the aforementioned son of Devilhorn Dad.) In my defence, I was only 16 and we'd only been together a month and a half. Still bad, yes. But it came back to bite me in the ass when my next boyfriend (the one I broke up with SoDD for) dumped me over the phone after dating for nearly two years. It was the coldest thing ever. |
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