JACkory
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Post by JACkory on Sept 19, 2008 14:55:29 GMT -5
Jeez, mat. You're a lot better looking than I recall you being. What gives?
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Post by maarts on Sept 19, 2008 19:23:12 GMT -5
Nice teeth.
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Post by Ayinger on Sept 19, 2008 22:15:21 GMT -5
Jeez, mat. You're a lot better looking than I recall you being. What gives? That chick's ass to the left distorts things. |
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JACkory
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Post by JACkory on Sept 19, 2008 23:09:59 GMT -5
What the fuck is that thing on your side? Assuming that's YOU. Which I don't assume.
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Post by RocDoc on Sept 30, 2008 12:20:51 GMT -5
since january 21st my mom's been on a steady decline, helped along (unfortunately) by the local medical community's unforgiving fuck-ups. she died this morning. in this case 'a better place' does apply, because there was no way she was coming back... ouch. i could rewrite this for my Dad, substitute july 6th for january 21st...and say that he died past friday afternoon. i sorta mentioned it (along with paul newman dying the same day) over at the 'icons' board, but brother don seems to be the only one who noticed. maybe no-one ever goes there, eh? the wake begins in a couple of hours and the funeral's tomorrow. um, what to say? 2008 sucks. |
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JACkory
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Post by JACkory on Sept 30, 2008 12:39:47 GMT -5
I'm sorry for your loss. That's a tough one.
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Post by skovrecky on Sept 30, 2008 14:18:38 GMT -5
Yeah, Doc, I hope get better for you and I am sorry for your loss.
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Post by upinkzeppelin2 on Oct 1, 2008 4:11:16 GMT -5
My prayers are with you, Doc. I'm sorry for you loss.
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Post by Ayinger on Oct 1, 2008 17:26:43 GMT -5
Can't imagine the space left empty in losing BOTH parents in such a very short time. I know when my father died (geezzz,,,21 years ago now) it took me a while to process his death AND how the whole family dynamic was changed.
Been thinking a lot too Doc on how your son will be missing out on really knowing those two... To borrow your word: sucks. Just sucks.
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Post by RocDoc on Oct 1, 2008 22:42:02 GMT -5
thanks jac, skv, melon, matt and brother don...it's much appreciated. i just came back inside after having a quiet cigar outside and looking up at the stars in the sky. felt one with the universe for awhile til i froze my ass. hello reality. Can't imagine the space left empty in losing BOTH parents in such a very short time. I know when my father died (geezzz,,,21 years ago now) it took me a while to process his death AND how the whole family dynamic was changed. Been thinking a lot too Doc on how your son will be missing out on really knowing those two... To borrow your word: sucks. Just sucks. interesting thing is that still feels that he knew them enough that he can say 'i loved grandma, i loved grandpa' even though they were already pretty unfortunately decrepit (and a bit too grabby for his tastes) when he began to understand that these folks were my mother and father. he could FEEL how much they meant to me, and it seemed like that was enough to validate to him that they were very special. just that he could say with sincerity that he felt that way about them pretty much blows me away. he's seen what we've all been through this year. maybe not 'seen', but he feels it. what a kid. i posted this just a minute ago, with another wonderful group of friends: thanks k-----, c----- and g---....thanks all of you guys.
funeral's done, over and i suppose wasn't so bad.
the priest who celebrated the mass said essentialy the same thing you did, k------....that there's LOTS of cultures who embrace death of a loved one as the send-off to something even greater.
as not really being SO devout a believer myself (though i do believe), i have to say i sure hope so, and at the very least, he's together with my mom and with his brothers and sisters who i am sure loved one another BIG time.
we ended up not using the 'church in the ghetto', but had a very prominent lithuanian priest at the very newest parish here (tho it is at least 25 years old) in the place where all the lith white-flightees ended up in the far southwestern suburbs years ago...this priest took up our cause and made it much easier for us.
he had to offer mass immediately after ours, so he couldn't make it to the cemetery for our graveside service, BUT....he enlisted a monsignor Urbonas who is 98 years old to come out with us.
holy shit, what a character!!
you want some perspective?
he gave it to us.
chances are that i was almost definitely an altar boy at one of this guy's masses at our home parish like EONS ago!
there was something with his vision (the guy still has a drivers' license!!) that it seemed like he wouldn't focus on someone he was talking to, but damned if he couldn't transport you back to the places in chicago that he was talking to us about.
fucking incredible person this guy.
and this is only based on a 20 minute impression....i pretty much begged the guy to come to lunch with us, but he said he's holding to a very resricted diet...and the lith food (heart attack on plate) we were going to eat, he loves, but can't touch.
my bro-in-law is telling him 'c'mon foddah, you're 98, you deserve to break loose!'...this guy was priceless.thanks again. |
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Post by Thorngrub on Oct 2, 2008 15:56:32 GMT -5
Roc - I am terribly sorry to hear this news. Yes, I missed that post, I don't venture into Bared Souls territory too often. Should probably rectify that. Its a terrible thing to bear, losing a parent. To lose both in one year... that's just too much. Please accept my condolences to you and your family.
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Post by maarts on Oct 21, 2008 9:15:02 GMT -5
I've quickly checked in here from my parental house and just saw your message, mate. My condoleances for you and your family, RocDoc. I truly hope your dad's at peace with your mom.
I've rushed home a few weeks ago because of my father's health which is declining fairly rapidly. His mobility's gone, he's dealing mostly with an army of pills which keeps him pain free most of the time but you can see him slip away. It's truly tragic and at times horrific to see the decline. But we enjoy the good moments together, listen to musc and watch some funny DVDs together and with more of these moments it's good to be here. The family have finalised everything for the end of his life and the funeral...now it's just living day by day.
I have to leave Friday week and that probably will be the last day I see my dad this way. Don't want to think about that this way uet though.
Cheers to you all. Catch up with you when I'm back in Australia.
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Post by skovrecky on Oct 21, 2008 9:16:13 GMT -5
Take care, Maarts and my prayers are with you.
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Post by maarts on Oct 21, 2008 9:19:51 GMT -5
Thanks mate. Much appreciated. Hope you and everybody around here are OK. Will be back soon.
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JACkory
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Post by JACkory on Oct 21, 2008 9:35:03 GMT -5
That's hard news, maarts. I can't imagine what that would be like. But the time you're spending with him now, enjoying each other's company like this, man, those will be some of the most precious moments of your life.
May God grant you the strength to get through the hard parts. You know my thoughts and prayers are with you.
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